The Pastor’s Relational Web

Did you know that several studies have shown that the single greatest issue facing pastors is isolation? Many pastors and their spouses feel unconnected and believe they have few or no friends. It also is difficult for pastors to know in whom to confide when needing to talk about personal or family issues.

The Pastors Institute has developed a retreat that emphasizes the importance of pastors building a relational web. In order for pastors to sustain, they need the following types:

• A peer—another pastor who understands contemporary pastoring issues.

• A spiritual guide, the pastor’s pastor—someone who cares and in whom a pastor can confide spiritual doubts and struggles.

• A friend—someone who values the pastor as a person other than in the role of pastor or family member.

• An encourager—someone who will inspire and motivate.

• A challenger—someone who will kindly bring to light the pastor’s personal growth areas.

This retreat can be adapted to groups of all sizes and can be applicable to the spouses of pastors. Also, each type of the relational web can be presented as a stand-alone seminar.

1. "This retreat helped me to realize that I can't be self-sufficient."

2. "The retreat was definitely more fun and more helpful."

3. "It reinforced my need for close friends. I feel well-loved by my people, but find myself as the giver in those 'friendships.' I am inspired now to become intentional in finding a friend."

4. "I need a pastor." 

© The Pastors Institute, 2007